
Mithunda's Krishnan Iyer M.A fondly repeated these lines when he held Vijay Chauhan's Son aloft. This was the typical HUF(Hindu Undivided Family) in legal parlance.
People were strongly bonded with family ties, supporting each other though the rough and rains, sharing joys and sorrows alike. This was the Joint Family system that the Indian society boasted of. Things changed, people moved across different societies, started travelling more frequently to distant destinations, dollar started flowing.... people started secluding themselves, distancing themselves, 'frustrated' and 'choked' they sought 'solace' & 'Independence' & 'freedom'.
Every house boasts of a son and daughter in the US/UK/Canada/Aus/NZ/Singapore etal..
The generation of '80s worked their youth to ensure a safe and secure future for their children.
Now, they are alone, ailing; fighting bouts of rejection, grief and self pity. They are surprised at the pace in which the societies have 'grown'? leaving them behind in the race for SUCCESS!!!
I met a couple today, with both dotters settled in the US for good. The graceful lady, who happens to be a cousin of my mom; proudly declared her skills in traversing the globe across airports with 'confusing symbols'! The gentleman offered an interesting repartee - These are the glorified Servant Maids! And the locals think 'Wow! She has gone to the US'
He continued; 'We are not called to see the beauty of US. We go only for Child Birth'
Alas, so true were those words that still reverberate in my ears as i come to terms with the plight of a 'rich' yet 'poor' couple lost in the 21st century highway of life!
My intention of blogging this was not to label a superiority tag on joint family system but to sensitize myself to the issue as i hard code these sentences on the web. I am reminded of my wife's words while we were still seeing each other - "We should not keep them with us for getting our work done"
This article also highlights my inability to use the right punctuations in a direct speech format... but there are larger issues to care for tonite!